Career Update & Wedding Venue Pro Tips ✨

About Me, Pro Tips
Good morning, afternoon, & evening detailers!
I’m just getting settled in at home after a very productive day, & thought to update you all on what’s going on!
It’s the holiday season, so life at Macy’s is at it’s most hectic. I’ve been there for about half a year now, running the show on all things Wedding & Gift Registry for the entire state of Indiana, & I’m absolutely loving my job. For the most part, my direct overseer has little to no contact, so I don’t have someone over my head every day telling me what to do; I very much get to be my own boss, & the discount isn’t half bad either! We have a huge event coming up for my department called a Sip & Scan, which is an in-store event inviting all newly-engaged & married couples alike to create, update & manage their wedding & gift registries, all the while enjoying food, music, entertainment, & even some prize giveaways for some lucky couples! My social media for WGR is #1 in the company, & we have gotten the attention of two huge bridal conventions in the area! To sum it all up, my coworkers are great (for the most part), & my manager is very supportive & always has my back. Macy’s does a really great job of taking care of me, & for that I’m very appreciative.
I also booked a wedding client a little over week ago, & we went & saw our first potential venue today- very exciting things!!! Although I will say the venue we went & saw was a lot more disappointing than either myself or my bride were anticipating. We both walked into this grand, covered entrance into the lobby that is adorned with ornate, Christmas decor. We met with my contact who proceeded to give us a tour of the entire venue, dazzling us with the stunning, 360-degree views of rolling green hills lightly dusted with snow, a gazebo overlooking a pond with two swans floating in the center, & large ballrooms with windows for walls, feasted on what Mother Nature was displaying for all to admire. All very picturesque as my bride & I envision the idea of her big day taking place here. The views, unfortunately, did not make up for all of the hidden fees that just kept getting tacked on, ultimately making the decision for us that this venue was a no-go. My job allows me to know exactly what questions to ask venue contacts, but I want you, my followers & everyone out there that’s planning an event to be educated & not get swindled into paying more than what you should be & were expecting to. Obviously you should know if they have your ideal date available, but there are some tough questions your venue doesn’t want you asking so that you’re a little less knowledgable when you’re signing contracts. Here are a few questions you can ask your potential venues-to-be so you know what you’re getting into before you put ink to paper:
  1. Do you allow outside vendors such as caterers, bakers, designers, etc.? Asking this question gets down to the bottom line of what kind of restrictions the venue has on what you can bring to the table, literally. Sometimes the venue will allow you to surpass using their in-house catering, but follow-up with asking if there are any fees tied to using outside vendors (i.e. corkage fee for outside alcohol, cake-cutting fee for using an outside baker, etc.).
  2. Are there any noise restrictions on your venue/do you have a sound variance/curfew in effect? Some venues have restrictions on the time frame that loud music can be played, which may put a damper on how long you & your guests can keep the party going for. With sound variances or noise curfews in effect, dancing the night away immediately gets thrown out the window; so if you have your heart set on a late-night shindig, it’s best to keep searching.
  3. What is included in the cost? This question does two things: lists everything that is covered in the overarching cost (usually includes: in-house catering per person, tables & chairs, linens, etc.), & it inadvertently lists everything that’s not included. You can follow-up with asking point-blank if specific things you care about incorporating are included in the cost as well, or ask your point-of-contact what is excluded.
  4. Do you have any restrictions on decor? There is always someone out there that ruins it for everyone. Because of poorly-placed candles or some overeager bride that went a little trigger-happy with the confetti guns, a few venues nowadays can have strict limitations in place as to what your wedding decor can & cannot contain. The venue we looked at today, for example, allowed candles but they must be placed in a glass container at least an inch below the opening, & definitely no confetti, glitter, or silly string is allowed.
  5. What is the backup plan for inclement weather, should it arise? Having an outdoor wedding a la open air makes for great photo ops, but I think I can speak on behalf of all wedding & event planners out there when I say that Murphy’s Law is real, & if you don’t want it to rain/snow/sleet/hail/blow a windstorm on your big day but you still want to risk an outdoor event without the proper measurements taken, anything that can go wrong, will come pouring down on you on that day. It’s best to be prepared & figure out what your venue’s backup plan, & find out if that includes an additional fee to switch to the indoor space.
If you’re just beginning the search on your ideal location, or still stuck deciding between a few different places, compare apples to apples (what’s included versus excluded, overall cost including rental fees, etc.) in a list, ask those tougher questions that venues are hesitant to answer, & once you’ve made your decision, the rest of the pieces of your event will fall into place more easily. ✨
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Trending ✨ Debunked!

Trending
Hello detailers, & ✨ happy 1st Anniversary to All in the Details ✨
First off, my apologies – I know it has been a very long hiatus, & a very busy couple of months for me both personally & professionally (I’ll be posting a job update later – stay tuned!), so now I’m ready to get back to blogging & chatting with you all, starting with the latest & greatest in what’s #trending!
A very cynical Offbeat article by an even more cynical writer was released trying to shame certain wedding trends, calling them “hipster,” “dumb,” & a whole other slew of less-than-intelligent monosyllabic words with no actual backing or research. So I’ve decided to take the very same things that bitter author wrote about & debunk them, showcasing exactly why you actually SHOULD incorporate them into your own special days instead!
Mason Jars

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Mason jars are multi-purpose containers; not only do they make great country chic glassware for that romantic, rustic barn wedding, but they can be transformed to befit any & all wedding themes, serving as centerpieces & decor, wedding favors, lighting, & so much more!
Personalized Wedding Shoes

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There wasn’t much commentary in the article as to why you SHOULDN’T have personalized wedding shoes besides “there are other options,” which we are all very aware of (thank you, Captain Obvious).
Personalized wedding shoes are a great memento from your special day, giving you the chance to reflect back on that day every time you wear them! Monogramming & personalization is a huge rising trend, & not just because you’re guaranteed to pretty much never lose the item! The customization & ability to make an item – even your wedding shoes – your own is what everyone wants; we all want something that is just uniquely ours! Check out Figgie Shoes for some serious wearable works of art, celebrating you & your special day.
Donut Walls

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Let’s get one thing straight: not everyone likes cake (see my National Ice Cream Day post for example!). An awesome alternative to the traditional dessert has risen in the midst of cake-haters, & an even more-awesome way to display it, too! Think about it: yes, you could totally have boxes with a pair of donuts in each, or go through catering to have them “serve” the donuts for you at your venue, but the Great Wall of Donuts is an eyecatching, fun, easy, & germ-free way to grab & enjoy the sweet treat (so that you can quickly get back to that dance floor!).
Naked Cakes

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On a similar tune to the Donut Wall debacle, just like how not everyone likes cakes, usually the culprit behind their distaste for the dessert is the presense (or sheer amount) of frosting. Naked cakes became the happy medium for couples that still wanted to enjoy a traditional dessert on their wedding days, but opted for less frosting & more savoring the actual cake itself! Chrissy Teigen & John Legend were one of the first to opt for this option befitting their romantic & rustic Italian lakeside wedding, & inadverdently started a huge trend!
Mashtini Bars

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There is a reason they call it comfort food: that warm, happy feeling (pre-food coma) from eating savory foods during the holidays makes you want to cuddle up by a fire with a fleece blanket & enjoy family time. There is no shame in incorporating your favorite holiday foods in your wedding day, especially if the date falls during late August – December! Add a twist to the buffet-style serving by making a mashtini station, where scoops of mashed potatoes can be featured in martini glassware/plasticware alongside fan-favorite mix-ins!
Burlap

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Overdone & referred to as “the worst fabric of all time.” Well, I’m here to tell you that burlap is a multi-purpose, inexpensive, & easy-to-coordinate fabric that adds a flair of rustic appeal, while still working well with your overarching theme & color palette. The neutral tone & texture is unique to burlap, & can be cut & shaped to befit any decorum, accessory, & need!
Chocolate Fountains

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The OG of party dessert: the chocolate fountain. What I love about chocolate fountains is that this is something that everyone across all ages can enjoy taking part in! Kids love it because 1) it’s chocolate, & 2) it has the potential to be very messy. Adults love it because 1) again, it’s chocolate, & 2) it is a fun & alternative method to every-day eating! If you are truly worried about the mess it could potentially cause, situate the fountain in it’s own dessert corner/area so that it is safe from drunk & disorderly bystanders & children running amok alike!
Gray Wedding Cakes

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Wedding cakes can (& should be!) ANY color that the couple wants, regardless of whether or not the cake “looks like it died 50 years ago & is haunting the wedding.”
*cue dramatic eyeroll*
Gray is elegant, neutral, clean, pristine, rustic, & NOT just reserved for cloudy days & funerals. Whether an accent color or the focal point of your event theme, don’t be afraid to experience any of the many shades of gray!
Candy Buffets

 

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I’m calling out all of my sweet-tooths to band with me on this one – CANDY IS DANDY, Y’ALL. A candy bar is an awesome & unique addition to the dessert area, or just as an alternative to the traditional sweets usually delved out during the event! The sweet treats are sure to be not only a crowd-pleaser that gets them up & running to the dessert area, but also gets them to the dance floor from the sugar rush! Plus, it gives your guests a wedding favor they are sure to enjoy!
Elaborate Bridesmaids Proposals

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Asking your squad to be by your side for all the wedding mayhem that could happen before, during, & after the event, help you hold your dress while you use the bathroom, combat any unruly relatives, & still ensure that you have the best night of your life IS A BIG DEAL. If you want to elaborately “propose” to your bride squad, I say go right ahead & please send me the pictures! I am all about ensuring that everyone feels special & included, and there is nothing wrong with making your besties feel a semblance of how you felt when your future spouse popped the question!
Wedding Signage

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The point of signage is to help the flow of traffic, keep people informed, & exhibit information. It’s almost essential to have some form of signage in your wedding, whether it is table seating charts, directions to the bathrooms or reception areas, or fun decor! Plus, it’s an opportunity to be creative with phrasing & colors, can be customizable to fit your theme & even have your unique relationship, &/or what you bond over as a couple together, incorporated into them.
Sand Ceremonies

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For those of you that don’t know, a sand ceremony is one of many forms of the tradition of symbolically unifying the couple during the wedding ceremony, usually involving two or more different colored sands that represent the couple as individuals, & combining them together in one container, representing their marriage. As far as calling a sand ceremony or the container of your choice “ugly,” it’s a lot like shaming the couple for wanting to symbolically celebrate their union out of bitterness. And don’t worry, there are plenty of beautiful sand ceremony containers (like the one above) that you would be proud to showcase in your home.
Bridal Cowboy Boots

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This is totally a personal preference, like wearing customized Chucks or sky-high stiletto heels. Don’t bag on a person’s shoe preference for THEIR wedding day, it’s THEIR choice! If you want to wear cowboy boots to your beautiful, rustic barn wedding, DO IT. If you want to rock $800 red-soled heels, DO IT. Get the thought out of your head that your wedding day is supposed to live to anyone else’s expectations & standards except for you & your future spouse’s, & walk all over those hateful opinions in your boots.
Wedding Ring Photos

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Ring photography is truly a work of art, & when it’s framed &/or blown up on a canvas, it can be such a statement piece of art for your home that you can look at & reminisce on your special day.
Barn Weddings

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On a related note to the cowboy boots, barn weddings set the perfect tone for a romantic, rustic event. Critiques were posed that “city people” shouldn’t partake in having a barn wedding because they don’t live on a farm, but that is such a limiting, ignorant position to take, when in reality the universe should be the limit on your wedding day & where you want to hold it. To my fellow city-slickers, barn weddings are rustic & beautiful, & you should not be afraid to have your wedding in one just because you didn’t grow up on a farm.
Succulents

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Succulents are the perfect form of greenery to add to bouquets & centerpieces. Not only do they transport well & have more durability than flowers, but because they are a part of the cactus family they’re very easy to keep alive, requiring very little attention even post-event, ensuring that you can keep them alive for much longer than any regular flower arrangement.
His & Hers Cocktails

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The aforementioned cynic has, surprisingly enough, made an insightful point regarding his & her cocktails: not all brides want a sweet, “girly” drink, & not all men prefer whiskey on the rocks. Since there was no [intelligent] afterthought at all, I figure I’d finish this by saying that his & hers cocktails are yet another great way for you to incorporate the unique couple that you are. Put all judgments aside of what people think you should be drinking, & remember that this is your day to celebrate & party the way that YOU want to!
Cupcake Stands

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I’m feeling personally victimized by this article if they’re hating on having cupcakes. Cupcakes are for EVERYONE, not just for kids’ birthday parties or school bake sales. Have your CUPcake & eat it, too!
Macarons

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Macarons are so not over, folks. If you’re not a cake (or cupcake) person, they make for a great dessert alternative, & also party favors everyone is guaranteed to enjoy!
Punny Wedding Favors

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Let’s all be real for a second, everyone loves a good pun/dad joke. And when you can make it work with the theme of your event, be all for it! Your wedding day is supposed to be filled with laughter, fun & happiness, & incorporating puns as part of the event will be sure to get a rise out of you & your guests alike!
Dogs as Ring Bearers

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I’m taking this one personally as a dog-owner. There is absolutely NO REASON why you shouldn’t include your best furry friends on your special day, especially if the dog is a family pet &/or the couple’s! You also have to remember that not everyone has small children at their disposal for the roles of ring bearers & flower girls, so your 4-legged companion can take on the role with pride & tail wags for days! Plus, think of how cute those wedding pictures are going to turn out (i.e. see above)!
Pro tip: have a leash, food & a water bowl, & some treats on hand to keep your pup entertained & happy before, during & after the festivities!
Themed Tables Instead of Table Numbers

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I love the idea of doing themed tables instead of the traditional table numbers with seating arrangements, especially when the table theme is centered around something that is unique to the newlyweds! Not being able to pick where you sit sometimes isn’t the most ideal of situations when you’re attending these events, but having a themed table is a great ice breaker to get guests who don’t know each other that are seated together talking!
Throwing the Bouquet

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In my single days, I went to many weddings & not going to lie, I slightly dreaded having to stand there basically announcing to the world that I’m still waiting for my own Prince Charming. But there was also something so thrilling about being up there, competing for that intricately-arranged bouquet in which catching it signified that “you’re next!” It was a total adrenaline rush, & now that I’m married & get to watch from the sidelines, it is one of the most entertaining sights to behold in person. Nixing this tradition would not only slightly disappoint your single ladies, but also the guests that secretly hope for a catfight to happen!
Metallic Cakes

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I am loving this metallic trend that has been on the rise for the last couple wedding seasons, as opposed to the traditional, all-white tiered cakes that make me yawn. Metallics are not only aesthetically pleasing, but pair well with virtually any color & theme you have going on with your event!
P.S. “It looks like it tastes like pennies.” Grow up, author.
Expensive Wedding Dresses
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As a former Bridal Stylist & Consultant for David’s Bridal, I truly loved my time getting to interact with brides of all ages, sizes, backgrounds, & of course personalities! Each one had different expectations, needs & desires for their dream gown, but budget was the difference I found to be the most prevalent. Ladies, let me tell you straight: the wedding dress of your dreams is attainable, no matter what your budget is. I’ve had brides from every financial background & I can tell you with 100% honesty that you can & will say yes to your dress, whether you’re spending $100 or $10,000 on it. That being said, if you want to drop $10,000, I say absolutely go for it, but take care of your dress afterwards. Have it dry-cleaned, preserved (both David’s Bridal & The Knot have dress preservation services), or kept safe for future generations to potentially use!
Fondant

Wedding Cake - 2 Tier - Fondant - White - With Decorative Pattern - With Flowers

I have to hand it to cake decorators because it is not easy to bake perfect cakes & create intricate designs (like the one above) with fondant. It is such a beautiful art, & there are endless possibilities with colors, shapes, designs, you name it. And for those of you Negative Nellies out there that aren’t a fan, don’t eat it, plain & simple!
Special Wedding Day Champagne Flutes

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The champagne flutes you use on your wedding day are symbolic, as you cheers to starting this brand new adventure with your best friend by your side. Wedding day champagne flutes aren’t just for the day-of either; you’ll be sure to find a reason to pull them out on special occasions – like anniversaries & other milestone celebrations! It gives you a great excuse for you & your love will always look back on that first toast & reminisce the great memories from your wedding day.
Dieting for the Wedding Day

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This particular topic is an extremely personal one, & is very subjective to each individual person. Your wedding day is supposed to be the very beginning of the next chapter of the rest of your life, the opening “Once Upon a Time…” if you will. On that day, there is a huge expectation of not only feeling your best, but looking your best, & let’s face it: we all want to feel the most special, the most attractive, & our absolute best on our wedding days. If you are a firm believer in that “sweating for the wedding” is going to help you achieve that level of happiness that you rightly deserve, I’m all for it! What I’m not a proponent for is that EVERYONE has to lose weight for their weddings, which is definitely not the case. Do whatever makes you happy, & whether it’s losing or gaining, remember that your future spouse fell in love with ALL OF YOU, just as you already are, & that is perfect for them.
At the end of the day, remember that it is YOUR special day, & no one (myself included!) can tell you exactly how or what to incorporate in it. Do whatever you firmly believe is going to not only make you happy that day, but also help put your best foot forward going into this next exciting chapter! & as always, reach out to me if there is anything I can help you with!
Best,
Chelsea ✨

5 Things Brides Must Do After the Wedding ✨

How-To's | Masterposts | Guides

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The bells have rung, there’s sparkles that will forever be stuck in the carpets of your venue, & you’re donning a brand new piece of jewelry on that left hand. My congratulations to you & your very lucky spouse! To shake things up a bit on AITD, instead of focusing on the pre-wedding planning process I want to share with you a great to-do guide of the 5 most important things you need to take care of ASAP post-wedding!
1. Changing Your Name & Declaring Marital Status on Sensitive 
Information
If you wish to change your name &/or your spouse is planning on changing their name, it is not as daunting or trying a process as most make it out to be! The Knot wrote an amazing-per-usual article detailing an easy step-by-step guide on how to change your name on your documentation & in what order, & covers all the bases & minor details in between, so check it out here! The key with facilitating the name-changing & marital status-changing process is to do it as soon as possible, & all at once. Once you’ve got your name & status changed on all sensitive documentation, bank accounts, tax forms, etc., take the time to discuss joint bank accounts & look into health/life insurance plans with your spouse, if you haven’t already.
2. Send Out Thank-You's & Leave Reviews For Your Vendors
Within 3 weeks after your event, send out thank you’s per your choice of medium (whether you do it electronically or via snail mail is up to you!) to everyone who attended &/or sent a gift to your wedding, & to those that played some part in the success of your big day! I’m personally a big advocate for personalized, mailed-out thank you cards, & you can find an awesome assortment & inspiration here!

Printable thank you cards that are perfect for weddings |  Styling: AnnaH | Photography: Christine Meintjies |

Another courtesy is to take care of those who took care of you on your big day – your vendors! Send out thank you’s to your caterer(s), venue(s), bar | serving | hosting staff (if hired externally), DJ | band, photographer | videographer, wedding planning team, anyone who had a part in making your day the success it was. Leave reviews & be sure to follow on all social media platforms if you haven’t already, & take the time to personally reach out to them with any critique or suggestions you may have that will help make the next event they participate in a success, as well!
3. Enjoy Your Honeymoon | Save-Up-For & Plan Your Next Adventure
You two just celebrated a HUGE milestone, & while partying it up with every single person you love in honor of that milestone was great fun, it’s time you two celebrated alone, & what better way to do that than with a honeymoon! Whether it’s something you planned during your engagement prior to your wedding day, or a sometime-in-the-near future getaway, solidify your plans for it. If your honeymoon is ready-for-takeoff, research the place you’re visiting & maybe plan out some extra excursions & local favorites to experience! For those still in the planning mode, take the time to map out the most realistic locations for the two of you to visit, & set a time frame & hard deadline for motivation. This is the most important step to take: set a goal for when you plan on taking your trip, especially in the midst of your soon-to-be &/or already-busy lives. 
4. Preserve Your Bouquet & Clean Your Wedding Dress
If you’re not one for the trash-the-dress trend (I’m planning on doing a future post on it for those of you who don’t know what that is, so stay tuned!) & want to preserve your wedding dress, my first tip would be to check with the boutique or store that you bought your dress from to see if they have any preservation kits or services they offer! (David’s Bridal is one of those retailers that does, ladies!) If that is not a viable option, look no further than The Knot to provide the most perfect & easy-to-use, online wedding gown preservation service.
Real or fake, plant, paper, or fabric, whatever material you chose to have your bouquet made out of (if you had a bouquet at all!), take the time to preserve it! Visit your local florists & pick their brains for insight & tips on preserving a bouquet made out of real flowers and foliage, & look into framed shadow boxes for putting your bouquet on display as a perfect memento from your wedding day.

 

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5. Print-Out & Frame Wedding Pictures
If you haven’t already thanked your photographer(s) | videographer(s) (see #2!), do so now! While you’re reaching out to them, have them send you the digitals for your wedding pictures (usually they’ll give you a disc | USB drive | Dropbox or Google Drive file), or ask them about a realistic time frame for you to expect them if they’re not done editing just yet, and then take the time to pick & choose with your spouse the ones that you want to put in an album, as well as ones that you want to blow up on canvases or frames in your home! Check out the ever-reliable Pinterest for great ideas on frame & canvas arrangements.

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Pro Tip ✨ Who says you have to be uncomfortable on your wedding day?

Pro Tips

 

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NEW ✨ @keds x @katespadeny Glitter Sneakers (seen above in bridal white)