Q: It seems to me that the wedding industry is simply focused on just that: the wedding itself, and not the marriage. I guess this doesn’t really count as a question, but I wanted to kinda get your opinion on the focus being taken away from the whole reason behind the wedding – the marriage – and is centered on the glitz and glamour.
A: I love that you posed this submission for me, because I actually just had this exact conversation with a loved one the other day, and I’d love to share with you what I wrote to her!
I want to start off by saying that my blog is centered 100% on wedding & special event planning, and tips & information from an experienced, insider perspective that could potentially help make any aspect of the planning process easier. That being said, a lot of my blog is centralized on ornate, unique, and sometimes over-the-top ideas & inspiration simply because that’s what today’s engaged couples want their wedding days to be: a display of their love & union as unique as the couple themselves.
I have a very unique vantage point in which I’ve been fortunate enough to work in & experience almost every aspect of the wedding industry in its entirety, and with that I have seen & interacted with so many great couples. I’ve also been very fortunate to have had few – if any – bad interactions that were memorable enough to be worth mentioning. The many, many good interactions I did have & remember, I witnessed couples very much in love, & excited to be married- not to have a wedding, but to be married. And all of them I can 100% certify vocalized that at some point in time during the course of my interactions with them.
The thing about having these lavish, at times expensive weddings, is that couples today are treating weddings like a huge celebration of that aforementioned excitement, and they also want to celebrate themselves as a unique couple that isn’t like the rest. Hence why feeling the need to add all of these different elements to set them apart. In my experience, a lot of what gets incorporated into a wedding and/or reception 99 times out of 100 the couple will tie it back to a significant memory or something they bond over.
You’re not wrong in thinking that a lot of the traditional meanings and reasons for the big white wedding get lost in the sparkle & shine of it all, especially now with the divorce statistics being what they are. With that being said, there are still a great deal many of people that enter into these marriages fully aware of the work & responsibility it takes for them to be successful. All in all, you cannot judge all by the decisions of the few, and not all marriages that take more pride in the overall hooplah behind planning their wedding days are doomed to fail.
I’ve been very blessed to have had the experiences that have given me the insight & perspective that I have, because it only makes me love the work that I do more. I believe I can speak for all of us employeed under the wedding industry when I say that we are all here to celebrate love ✨
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